Happiness is neither something we defer to the future, or a state of detachment from the real world and its difficulties, nor should it be an idealization of ourselves.
It is when life throws challenges at us, we look right back at life in defiance. It is the resolution that despite our problems, or rather in the face of our problems, we nonetheless strive to remain happy.
Happiness is a dare.
Perhaps disenchantment is life’s greatest of all gifts; only by being disillusioned we can start to be free. This is how we will be happy.